Recovering The SelfA Journal of Hope and Healing


10 Amazing Tips to Improve Your Self-Esteem!

by Cassandra Worthy

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~ Buddha

Self-esteem is essential for you and your life especially when you want to be happy. Most of us struggle hard in maintaining and improving our self-esteem. Usually, there can be different issues which are severely affecting it and the solution is in our hands.

You are the one who analyze the problem way before others that your self-esteem needs improvement. Also, you are your best mentor in improving it. Therefore, there are few fantastic tips which can help you feel better and plays an essential role in your self-esteem growth.

1. Talk to yourself, build it up.

It might sound funny and cheesy, but talking to yourself is your best weapon. Whenever you are in a difficult situation or you are nervous, have a look at the mirror, talk to yourself (and out loud!).

No one can motivate you better than yourself. If you are in a difficult situation, you can build your confidence by telling yourself that you can do it!

Make it your habit and feel more confident, even others still have doubts on your sanity.

2. Drop your negative thoughts.

As soon as we have any small issue or a minor mistake, our brain goes wild. The negative thoughts are our most significant enemy and it will not let us happy for a long time. You might feel worthless, stupid and depressed on pity things. That is why you have to say NO to the negative thoughts.

If you want to improve your self-esteem, you have to tame your mind and try to be as confident as possible.

Your thoughts play an essential role in your personality that is why invest in a peaceful environment for your mind. Surround yourself with positive people and avoid negativity as much as you can.

Try to meditate if you have trouble leaving your negative thoughts. Engage yourself in any activity or hobby as an empty mind is devil’s workshop.

3. Be kind to yourself.

Treat yourself with compassion and don’t be too hard!

Most of the time we set too difficult targets for ourselves which are not only hard to achieve but also creates a lot of stress for failure. That is why you have to take care of peace of your minds and make sure that you are kind to yourself.

When you have harder targets, there are more chances for you to fail and constant failing also results in decreasing your self-esteem. Try to set simple and easy goals which you can complete in a given deadline. The more you achieve, the better your confidence is.

4. You need a support system, find it.

A support system is essential for you. When you have people you can rely and trust on; it boosts your happiness and self-esteem. Therefore, you need to find those people who care about you and support you unconditionally. It can be your partner, friends, family and colleagues etc.

Your support system is essential to keep you going in your good and bad times. It will help you keep going and overcoming hurdles of life. Your support system also motivates you and improve your self-esteem with care and positivity.

5. Stop comparing yourself.

You don’t have to be perfect. The things which you see on the internet are not always real. We usually compare yourself to others and try to be just like them. But things they are showing is not accurate. Don’t get impressed with their fancy lives, happy family and luxury lifestyle. They might have difficulties too, but we usually perceive wrong from the social media.

That is why try to be yourself and stop following others.

6. Volunteer.

Helping others works wonders for your self-esteem. Studies have shown that volunteering can play a vital role in your happiness. After all, we are social animals and we cannot keep away ourselves with the human nature.

Volunteering makes us happy because we feel that we have something to offer, also we are an essential and productive part of the society. That is why it is commonly seen that people who are actively participating in charities and volunteer are happier and satisfied than those who don’t.

7. Don’t be a perfectionist.

You might be unique but still, you are not perfect. In fact, no one is perfect at all. That is why instead of wasting your time in some unrealistic approach and try hard to be a perfectionist, try your luck with smaller victories.

Usually, we expect too unreal things from life and people and when it is not provided, our self-esteem is hurt. Therefore try to be as real as possible and give your expectations a reality check!

8. Accept and learn from your mistakes.

You have heard it again and again from business stories and entrepreneur that failure is a valuable learning lesson for you. Either you are an entrepreneur or not, it applies to your life too. Don’t chew on your mistakes and try to learn as much as possible.

Mistakes are part of life and no one can prevent it, therefore try to learn as much as possible. People who accept and revel in their mistakes are happier and have higher self-esteem.

9. Make a list of your best things.

Every person has various things they like and admire about themselves. People with low self-esteem usually think that they have no qualities and they are no good. When you are working on your self-esteem, it is essential for you to know that there are so many good things which make you stand out from others. Therefore take a piece of paper and pen and write things which are best in you.

You need to list down your best features and characteristics you like most about yourself.

Note down things that you have achieved in life, either it is a small success or a big one.

Write down your strengths, things you are good at, it can be your quality, skills or characteristics.

10. Groom yourself.

Personal grooming is essential when it comes to the way you feel about yourself. Your physical appearance is as important as your thoughts, which is why people are investing more and more on themselves.

The way you look has excellent potential to mark an impression on other as well as how good you feel. You should follow some tips to update your grooming:

  • Eat healthy as much as you can. It is beneficial for your look as well as a healthier lifestyle.
  • Sleep well. Make sure you get up to 8 hours of sleep each day.
  • Dress well, even if you don’t have expensive clothes, try to wear clean and decent ones.
  • You need take care of your hygiene. Even thou no one can know about it, but you do. When you feel good, you will act better and confidence in your personality.
  • Quit any bad habit which you think is a hurdle in your self-control.

About the Author

Cassandra Worthy is a female motivational speaker, business trainer, and a passionate blogger!


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