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How to Recover from a Relationship with a Broken Heart

by Gypsy Jonson

The pain of a relationship failing is perhaps one of the greatest sufferings that any of us will face in life. But, there are ways in which you can get rid of this pain and restore your emotional balance so that you can enjoy your life to the full once more. It won’t take more than a few days for you to do this. Let’s see what you need to do.

Accept the Pain

You need to accept that you will have to go through pain. It’s unavoidable. If you loved someone enough to get your heart broken, you will have to go through suffering too. Whenever a person loses something that means a lot to them, they will feel sad about it. It’s an important part of the entire healing process. The only problem is that people tend to go over this time and time again. If you can’t break the cycle, it may just end up with your behavior becoming dysfunctional. Your pain could turn into a habit. This should not be allowed to happen. There comes a time when pain is unhealthy.

Change Habits

You will need to break the connections you have formed if you want to move forward. Turn off any music which takes you back to the past. Change the way your home looks or feels. Move your furniture around. Take up some new activity. Just keep on moving. Exercise proves to be quite effective here. The point is to break up any old associations and create a fresh environment for your life. The changes do not have to be permanent. Even something small like using different shampoo or deleting numbers can help. Just do something.

Change Thoughts

Next, you need to change things on the inside. There are a number of habits that you may build up during a relationship. They tend to stay even after the relationship is over. This is something which the best psychic readers in the world can help you with. Stop thinking of the end of your relationship as the end of happiness. Being heartbroken is something which can make you feel hopeless and worthless. This is only because the frame you use is very narrow. Try seeing things from a different angle, and you may just find it to be liberating.

Change How You See Yourself

The next thing you need to do is look at things from a different perspective. Form a mental picture of your relationship. What do you think of your ex? You will need to control this visualization. All of us make pictures in our imagination. This may not actually be what’s happening to us. Imagination and memory can affect our feelings just as much as reality can. This is why it is important to control the pictures and not allow them to rule our feelings.

Change the Past

No, you cannot go back in time and do things differently. But what you can do is change the way you remember things. Just think of the first time you fell in love. Picture it clearly in your mind. Now think of the worst parts of the relationship. All the problems and issues you faced. Every time you think of anything nice about the relationship or anything you miss, just think of the bad things and the things you don’t miss. Slowly you will find yourself thinking about the past lesser and lesser. Eventually, you will not want to think about it at all.

Fall Out of Love

Now, you need to tackle the biggest issue, falling out of love. The main reason a person is heartbroken is because they are still in love. This hurts because you still feel attached to your ex. You need to stop doing that, and there is no better way than the visualization method mentioned above. Just think of all the good times you spent together and then compare them with all the bad. You will quickly realize that things weren’t as good as you may have imagined. The negative memories will soon start to outweigh the positive ones, and you will realize that you’re much better off now. This is when you will truly start falling out of love. That’s when you will be on the road to recovery.

Understanding Emotions

The next thing for you to do is to understand all your emotional reactions. You will feel heartbreak, and this is a feeling that won’t disappear unless you deal with it. Emotions are like people knocking at a door to deliver messages. They aren’t going to go away until you let them in. If you don’t eventually, they will break the door down anyway. You need to be able to open the door every single time. This means getting over your shame, fear, and anger.

Believe in Love

You might be hanging on to the relationship because you feel you will never love anyone like this ever again. This is not true. There are more than 6 billion people on Earth. Surely, you’ll be able to find someone else. The fear of being all alone is what makes it hard for people to move on. This is something that makes a person anxious. The burden just keeps getting heavier. Don’t let this happen.

Living Happily

The last thing you will need to do is to start imagining a bright future for yourself. This is a great way to fight complicated feelings you may have. Just imagine walking into an entirely different time when things are going your way, and you don’t suffer from any heartbreak at all.

There often is a lot of emotional baggage to go through when you are dealing with heartbreak. You need to do it bit by bit instead of trying to get rid of everything at once. Your subconscious will be your protector here which gives you strength to keep moving forward. Follow these steps, and you will quickly learn how to step out from your memories and leave them behind so you can start your new life.

About the Author

Digital Marketing consultant & author Gypsy Jonson has more than 5 years of experience in SEO and internet Marketing. Gypsy Jonson loves to write on psychic/spiritual mediums, and love and relationships. You can read more her articles on Google+

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